I believe this is just a phase. I’ve been in that situation a dozen times before. And believe me, its unbelievably stressful and painful. But the evil soon goes away if you look at the brighter side of things. It can be settled, not by quitting, but by compromise. A little sacrifice for the one you love wouldn’t hurt (and that goes for both of them). Of course, I can’t judge how they feel, I can only speak from what I know and what was said. And from the mere fact that she wouldn’t just let go, that she is bothered and hurt by what is happening to them, and that she misses what they used to do together, I can say that she still does love him (at least that’s what I think). After all, two years is two years. When you spend that much time with someone, that someone becomes a part of you and your life. When you begin to love someone, and continue to love him/her for that long, the feeling doesn’t just go away.

Now. The guy loves her so much. To him she’s become his life. It’s not impossible that a guy could feel that much for her. Guys can be so insensitive and screw-up, I know, but some of them are just angels. I’ve met my match also. At first I didn’t want it, until I realized you couldn’t make a person stop loving you that much. You can only be grateful it happened to you because not everyone gets the chance to be given that much. If you just learn to appreciate, you’ll see that it’s a good thing, a sweet blessing. For people to be able to give a love as big as that, they must be in possession of a really, really big heart. To give your heart to someone is not an ordinary thing to do. It takes a great, selfless person to do that. If you can just give up on something as beautiful as that, think again. It could happen just once in a lifetime.

But the usual problem is this. A guy like that can become so possessive and insecure. To the point that neither of you gets the chance to ‘seize the day’. And a girl like her could be so unhappy in a situation like that. Believe me, I know. But insecurity is not a no-way-out situation. You can always do something to resolve it. Maybe one or two of you fall short of understanding. Maybe both should adjust and meet halfway. My friend, I know, feels bad that she can’t do everything she wants. I’m sure the guy feels twice as bad because his feelings for her prevent her from being happy. Or, I don’t know, maybe I just hurt for the guy who is super nice and super in love with her that I’m already missing the point.

I know that what she feels is nothing that involves just her; it has to do something with both of them. You see, I’ve been there a number of times before. I’ve had even worse. And yes, nakakasawa at nakakasakal at first. That’s a normal reaction, especially if you’re not used to getting too much attention. Then when you do the same things over and over again everyday for years, there’s plenty of reason to feel a little bored. Especially (like in her case) if the relationship becomes stagnant. But like I said last night, you can feel that about anything anytime. In my case, I stayed and fought for what I feel. Both cried and caused pain. Cried a lot, actually, and made another person cried harder. The lesson is, you can’t just leave and say goodbye every time you feel that. You have to fight for some things sometimes. Otherwise, you won’t see what’s in store for you.

Trying to do new things together and making your relationship work wouldn’t hurt, right? For me, you just have to know what you want to happen with your life—what makes you happy, what is good (for you and the person you love), what you love, what could make you happy for the longest possible time. We’re old enough to know and be sure. Don’t go looking for fancy definitions of love. They tend to mislead. And don’t be blinded with silly crushes, nor fancy friend-turned-lover-turned-friend obsessions. They can only make you happy for a very short time. It’s only short-lived and not worth everything both of you shared, fought for and dreamed of. Maybe, this works, at least for those who have just been bored and eventually became overwhelmed with new prospects. So start with what you know and how you feel. You’ll be surprised at what you can do with your feelings sometimes. Don’t rush into things when you’re not sure, and when you’re sure, don’t just let go at the first strike of hardship. Make things work, not only for you, but for everybody else you care for. Give it time. If it still won’t do any good, then maybe you can give it all up. BUT only when you’re sure you’ve tried your best—when you’ve utilized every single method to make things work. That is, of course, if you’re in love. Otherwise, this is useless (and I’d look like a stupid little puppy eating dust. No glory whatsoever for writing all these.).

There. It sounded like a sermon, sorry. I just wanted to share and inspire. Oh, well. I guess that would be all. I’m happy to have shared these with you. Hope to have contributed to your confusion. Haha. =)

Here always.